This might include an apology but not unless the child is ready. Sometimes just clearing up the mess eg washing the ink off the walls is enough to help them alter their behaviour ….
Alter behaviour- What can you learn from this? What would help you not to do this again? Maybe we need a rule about where you can use your coloured pens?
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Argos AO. Privacy Policy Feedback. Forget the naughty step! Reasoning with children is the best way to make them stop misbehaving Scientists studied how parents dealt with their children when naughty Study found naughty step was least effective at dealing with misbehaviour Compromising could actually lead to worse behaviour in the long run Reasoning with children worked best in the long term for all bad behaviour By Colin Fernandez, Science Correspondent For The Daily Mail Published: GMT, 6 August Updated: GMT, 6 August e-mail 2k shares.
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No amount of isolation, shaming and false apologies can create this. Thomas says that while it's natural for parents to feel stressed and lose their temper when their kids are behaving badly, going head-to-head with them in the heat of the moment won't work. For this reason, time-out is more important for mums and dads than children, she says. To use their time-out effectively, Thomas suggests parents follow this ABC technique: Accept how you feel; Breathe deeply, in through your nose and out through your mouth, as your body can't feel stressed and relaxed at the same time; Choose how you want to respond.
Instead of focusing on children's behaviour, look beneath the surface at the emotion that's driving it. So, rather than punishing them if they get angry, parents should give them tools to help them manage the anger and understand it.
Instead of punishing children, step into their world and empathise with them — look at the world through their eyes, advises Thomas. She says parents can do this, once they are calm after their ABC, by firstly engaging with their child, then exploring how they're feeling, and finally empowering them by giving them a tool to help them calm themselves so they can manage their emotions.
Make sure you give your child attention for behaviour you want to encourage, rather than behaviour you want to discourage. Praise them as you "Catch them 'red-handed' behaving well and describe what you see," suggests Thomas. Thomas says negative language is hard for children's brains to process, and explains: "When your child hears you say, 'don't run', 'don't shout' or 'don't argue', they hear 'run', 'shout', 'argue'.
So get into the habit of showing and telling them what you do want them to do.
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