He has a good job and belong form a really good family, so I have these strong feelings for him but he doesn't know about my feelings neither hes sister and mother! Some of my friends know about it! I really wanted to be with him and marry him cuz of course I am 18 and girls in Pakistan usually get engaged in this age!
I prayed to Allah from the bottom of my heart for him! I became really upset cuz I really wanted him! Now I don't know if it was my minds trick or it was real I'm really upset cuz I really want him! I don't know what to do! Can someone please help me please that would be really kind and reply me as soon as possible please. I have a man who recently proposed to my family. When my parents agreed, he and I prayed istikhara to decide if this is truly the right decision.
When he prayed, he received a negative feeling about moving forward, however, when I prayed, I had a positive feeling or no feelings at all. Both of my parents have prayed istikhara in regards to moving forward with the proposal and have received good feelings. What is the ruling for conflicting feelings, - does it mean some members of the party did not perform istikhara correctly?
If that means you do not get married, then so be it. By the way, Istikhara is not about getting "feelings". One simply prays then makes the best decision she can, trusting that Allah will guide her to what is good.
Currently i have a relation, she is 27 years old and i am 18 years old. So we all know marrying someone older is not haram. She loves me very much and she knows i am the best for her. I told her to talk to your parents about me, but she said, she is scared that her wont accept someone younger. Like didnt said yes to it. She told me, her dad did istikhara on different people. And the answer was good, 3 times. We really want to get married. I am syed and she is also syed. Sunni syeds i mean.
Can u tell me what should she do, should she follow what her dad wants. She told me she is not happy, shes only marrying for her parents happiness. Islam has given us full advice to take decision on marriages. Like marriage is a whole eternal life. One has to spend entire life together. She is not even little interested in that person. Her father is sick, he is 63 years old.
Syed, the woman is free to choose her marriage partner, but it sounds like she has made her choice and is going along with her father's decision. Whether or not her choice is sincere, in the end it's up to her and it seems she has made a choice. So I think you must accept that and end your contact with her. Hello, There is a man i have been with since two years now. Wanting to get married, and his family approved of me.
On my side, my mother has done istikhara and it came up negative. She has also asked mawla and the answer came wrong too. I have not told him yet. I want to do istikhara myself. In any case my feelings for him are really strong, is it wrong to go against my family and still marry him?
Will i really not be happy? He really loves me and wants to marry me. I am not strong enough to let him go or to see him with someone else. What should i do? If the marriage makes sense to you and others then marry. Does he have good character? Is he hard working?
Does he keep his commitments? How does he handle anger? How does he resolve conflict? Is Islam important to him? Please check these things before committing.
Assalam u alikum, I am 30 year old,want to marry with person who already married with 1 son. As per my family istakhara came negative,did by some other molvis. Assalam o alaikum I am in a relationship with a guy and we really love each other and want to get married , I did istikhara by our family molvi he took the guys name and his mothers name and the anser came out to be negative and now my family is also totally against it..
I performed istikhara and felt the anser to be positive what should I do ,??? I made istikharah for the proposal i got I need help If you don't like him you will have difficulty in fulfilling his rights. I thought the first step in Istikharah was not having any inclination. If you don't like him after Istikhara I thought that meant you shouldn't be with him. Istikhara or not it is up to you to fulfill his rights, if you can't do that you shouldn't marry him. I wanna get married to the person of my choice but my family is against it It's best to let this relationship go for now.
A person must carry out all efforts necessary to reach a correct decision even after making Istikhara. If a person is content on Istikhara only and does not make the required efforts to reach the correct decision he may fall into error. Third, in this particular case the reason for breakup of marriages is not certainly known. It is possible that the marriage failed not because the decision to marry that woman was wrong but because the husband could not properly handle the marriage. In other words it is possible that the decision to marry the woman was correct but the decision to divorce her was wrong.
Fourth, as mentioned in the first point in some rare cases Istikhara does not prove to be fruitful in this world but it is certain to be fruitful in the world hereinafter.
I am extremly perplexed and grieved concerning my present situation and shaytan is also attacking me with various iman endangering thoughts. Please can you answer my following question and put my mind at rest.
I married a woman about 3 years ago. I went to see her and everything was done the Islamic way. And ordain for me whatever is good for me, And make me satisfied with it. Istikhara Dua by Mishari Alafasy with transliteration and translation. More resources on the topic: Bilal Philips — Understanding Istikhara. So look for roadblocks in your way. If things start becoming easier, then it may be a sign that this can bring more khair for you in the future too if Allah willed.
Now the question is — how to NOT do istikhara Because how to do it is pretty clear from the hadith :. You do NOT have to ask a scholar or any righteous person to do istikhara for you! If your family or anyone else is involved in the matter situations where one decision affects multiple people , they can do it too! There is no religious verification for having someone else do istikharah for you.
You are good enough to talk to Allah. Allah is just as available and just as accessible to the sinful person as He is to the most righteous and pious person. All of us have access to Allah alhamdulillah. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me…[ ].
You do NOT have to wait for a dream! If any of you sees a dream that he likes, let him tell others of it if he wishes, but if he sees something that he dislikes, he should not tell anyone about it, and he should get up and perform prayer.
You can NOT do istikhara for the known matters — matters that are waajib obligatory or mustahabb liked or encouraged , there is no need for istikhaarah to decide whether to do them, and with regard to matters that are haraam forbidden or makrooh disliked , there is no need for istikhaarah to decide whether to avoid them.
The issue of istikhaarah is confined to matters that are mubaah allowed , or in mustahabb matters when there is a decision to be made as to which one should be given priority. Istikharah is a very powerful tool that should be performed with utmost belief and sincerity that Allah will guide towards the best only. The purpose of Istikharah is not to plead Allah for a certain wish but to ask him for guidance.
It may be a blessing in disguise. He is the one with infinite wisdom and when He tests us with a situation and takes something that we thought was good for us, have faith in Him. As Allah says in the Quran:.
And Allah Knows, while you know not. A page from our Productivity Journal for Muslims. Loved the article and the author detail both. May Allaah accept your good deeds and reward you for that, ameen. Make sure you have narrowed down your options through research and istishaara consulting wise righteous people around beforehand. In short, one at a time. And Allah knows best! Can we include 2 matters in one Istikharah?
Or do we need to pray 2 additional nawafil for 2nd matter? Jazak Allah. Read the full post here. May Allaah accept your good deeds and reward you for that, Ameen. Why not! May Allah help you through this decision.
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