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No one should be calling you out of your name. Him withholding sex is him almost like him punishing you after he already basically did by giving you the silent treatment for so long. He sounds very controlling and demeaning towards you. He likes to be in control in the bedroom and it sounds like he likes to be control outside the bedroom. Try not to give him what he wants. You should not reward silent treatments. You are aware of your faults and that is the first step to change.
Now He must become aware of his toxic behaviors as well and maybe you both can find a way to find the solutions for things. Good luck!! Sounds like Narcissistic behavior. My ex wife is a narcissist and would get angry very easily, call me all kinds of nasty names, and give me the silent treatment for hours and then forget that we even had a conversation.
It hurts when someone you love is emotionally abusive. Its like they do not care and have no empathy at all. I feel your pain. Lean on God during tough times and be will give you shelter. God bless! I have known my man for the last 1year. Recently deleted a text i had sent to him and he became very angry and accused me of being with another guy.
He claimed i sent him the wrong text which was meant for the other guy. He didnt talk to me for a day. Then next day he claimed to be fine so i assumed everything was okey. H e claimed he belives his instincts are telling the truth but to be honest am very loyal to him..
I dont know if i can recover from this. I was married to man for three years who practiced the silent treatment….. He then taught the technique to our daughter. My daughter and I go through this cycle about every months and have been for the last 18 years. She has managed to ruin virtually every holiday, birthday and event in the last 7 years since I moved closer to her when she was pregnant.
When they got there, she did not say a word to me, just kept playing games on her phone…. After about 30 minutes of being ignored I asked them all to leave. I returned all the ingredients. To this day, I have no idea what the problem was. But, generally the cycle starts the same.
She gets irritated and starts a fight……then yelling……name calling….. She is very manipulative, guilt trips are a fav with her was also with her dad who was also a master at the silent treatment. Hey , I met this girl like three years ago , she was making a internship in a city of a country where was just moving in to.
She moved back to her hometown after the internship was over which was like 5 hours away and she stopped replying me so I kinda of gave up on her. We never communicated much though in between between and our encounters were messy because of my insecurities , I could never be sure what she wanted for me because never initiated anything. Then she came to meet me one time for the first time and I had a friend over because I was afraid of being alone with her.
I grew silent and said It depended but asked the same and she said that anyone seemed to want to get down with her. I was relieved. Why is she silently treating me , it hurts a lot because I really liked her. I have a significant other I have known for nearly a year. He was widowed almost a year ago unexpectedly.
I have supported him during his grief and continue to. We had no contact for 6 months after a catastrophic breakup. I was and have been devastated as well as quite heartbroken. He recontacted me me nearly 2 months ago to see me. He profusely apologized for his behavior when we broke things off. He used to text me every day throughout the day in the beginning until we broke up. Now that we reconnected not so much.
I am the one having to put the effort into contacting him. After reuniting we were intimate and he was happy and content but very frightened. I gave him space he did not contact me after this.
I contacted him 10 days after we were intimate to set up a time to talk. I left more confused than before we met. I met him for breakfast a couple of days later. I can tell he really likes me and the attraction is definitely there but he keeps running away. I truly feel he is using his grieving time to be with other women and I fit the bill when he has an itch to scratch. I want to face him off. What can I do or say to get to the bottom of this silent treatment?
Thank you so appreciate any recommendations this hurts deeply…. Apologies if I have this wrong. Move on! This guy is really cruel. You dodged a bullet.
I need advice please. I have a daughter who just turned 40, who has been in a relationship for over three years with a man who is separated from his wife yet not divorced. They get into discussions about him finalizing and divorcing his former wife so they can move forward with their relationship, however, he keeps dragging his feet and making excuses. He texts on occasion but that is it. She gets angry with me if I disagree with her about the relationship.
I worry this other girl may make things so bad that she will have to find another job or it will cost her her job. I think she feels obligated to him for this? He has also been kinda mean to her too, verbally. Too many examples to mention here. Right now he is in one of his many silent moments. Yet our granddaughters are in the middle of this mess. I had the father of my son, silent-treated me, i left him.
The next boyfriend did the same, i left too. Then i have a boyfriend who is now doing the same, not texting me or texting me back withno words but this,????. I left him today. There could be a pattern that is perhaps repeating itself that you might have been ignoring from your own part.
Leave him. It is not your fault. If you stay and have children it will become even worse trying to maintain a house of harmony. All your energy will be put into making it up to the kids that dad is sulking and not talking. He will even use the kids against you during his silent treatment days to make you and the kids think that the problem is you.
It will hurt a lot less to get out now. If might think about seeing a professional about this on your own. This is your life, you are the only one that can save yourself. You did great by reaching out with this question. My husband has ignored me the majority of the time. He has improved some, but it will never be what I want. Yes, that is sad. Reminds me of The Bridges of Madison County. Ever see it? Hopefully you have the latter and perhaps have some aspects you can enjoy about each other.
My husband who I am considering leaving is emotionally exhausting. What should I do. Jay — can this be a safe place where people come for support or do you have to get your back up and try to defend an entire gender?
Tina, I totally understand. I spent 20 years in one long silent treatment. The longer you are with them the more like them you become because it is the only way to survive.
If you feel you still have the spark of life in you, maybe consider leaving him and finding yourself, and maybe a bit of happiness. You could get a lawyer and look at your options. In a 21 year old marriage with a sulker who goes silent for days. A very lonely life. Zero sex or intimacy for years. He works hard at work but isolates himself from 6pm until 9pm when he goes to sleep. He is self serving and self absorbed. Totally uninterested in me. But, I can go wherever I want, whenever.
I often go to our vacation home to get away from him. I dread when he retires. But suppose he outlives you? And suppose you only outlive him by 1 year? You really need to do what you can to leave.
Your kids are grown now. Start planning your escape. I had this boy best friend before. We only had 6 months of being a bestfriend. One thing is for sure, he express his feelings through text that if he courted me, would I say, Yes to him? Though I really like him but I really wanted to be like the way we are at that time.
It was 1 week after my debut and almost New Year of at that time, he was admitted to hospital because of dehydration. The researchers note that it can be difficult to overcome our natural impulse to engage when someone converses with us or says something that triggers us, but shunning is a more powerful weapon against jerks than argument. To read the abstract or view the full study if you have access to Sage Journals , hit the link below.
Relax and be free from anxiety Take back good sleep and help alleviate pain. Ok, this is good for trolls and generally obnoxious people, but what about plain old "dumber than a bag of rocks" people that frustrate you even more than an intentional troll ever could? The A.
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